She said it so quietly I almost missed it.

We were sitting in her office at the end of a long day. She runs a successful company. Good people. People she believes in. People she hired carefully.

And yet, she looked exhausted.

Not burned out exactly. Just… alone in it.

She said, almost to herself,

“The more I exert my agency, the less room other people have to own theirs.”

She wasn’t angry at them. She was sad.

Because she could see it happening in real time. Every time something wobbled, she stepped in. Every time something was unclear, she carried it. She told herself this was leadership.

And in many ways, it was.

But it also meant no one else ever fully had to.

This is the quiet heartbreak of leadership. The stronger and more responsible you are, the easier it is for ownership to slowly, invisibly consolidate around you.

Until one day you realize you’re holding far more than you were ever meant to hold.

Not because your people are weak. Because the system has learned that you will catch it.

I see this everywhere right now. Good leaders carrying too much. Not because they want control, but because they care.

I’m hosting a live session to talk about how this happens, and more importantly, how to shift it, so leadership doesn’t live in one exhausted human at the center, but in the system itself.

You can learn more HERE.​

If you’re carrying too much, there is nothing wrong with you.

But it may be time to stop holding it alone.

— Moe

​RSVP now for Tuesday, February 10, 9 to 10 am PT

Moe